Friday, November 5, 2021

Messy is Fast


      November 5th is our tenth wedding anniversary.  It has been ten years of wedded bliss.  It has been ten years of growing our family exponentially.  It has been ten years of loving each other more ever day.  I always tell people it is staggering how fast your whole world and life can change.  One moment I was hanging out with my friends going to clubs with confidence that I was going to be single for a long time.  The next moment I am married with three kids and dog.  It really does happen that quickly.  Three months after the first time I saw this man's face I was engaged to be married to him for the rest of my life.  Now that I'm living my new life my old life seems like it was a million years ago.  However, it was really only ten years ago that I started my new life.

     On October 31, 2009 a girl dressed as Velma from Scooby Doo went to meet a boy dressed as a pirate at an Outback Steakhouse.  I met my husband online.  We talked online and on the phone for about a month before we decided to meet.  He had just moved into the area and was looking for a way to be more social.  I had just been laid off and was looking for a distraction.  Neither one of us were looking for love.  We had actually planned our first date for November 5th but when I was talking to him he didn't have any plans for Halloween.  The thought of him alone on Halloween made me feel bad since he was new to the area.   I invited him to go bar hopping with me and my friends at a local bar district.  The date wasn't anything special.  His main redeeming quality was his quick action during a bar fight.  Batman and a Purple Teletubby were fighting at one of the bars and Batman was thrown over a metal railing by the Teletubby.  My future husband threw me and three of my girlfriends behind him to protect us from the battle that was raging.  The nerdy Velma did not lose her glasses and could see the pirate's chivalry very clearly.  For those of you wondering, Batman lost the bar fight but apparently I won the pirate.

     Although the Halloween date was lackluster I had already committed to the date the next weekend.  Thinking to myself this would probably be the last time I would go out with this guy but I agreed to meet him at a local pub.  Little did I know that on November 5th my whole outlook on this man would totally change.  He pulled out all the stops.  I had once casually mentioned one time that I liked bison burgers. This wonderful man found one of the few places that served them.  He wanted me to show him the city so we walked and talked for hours.  It might not have been a scene from a romantic comedy but that is how my brain chooses to remember it and who am I to argue with that.  Three short months after the first time we met, we planned to go to dinner and movie.  By this time we were definitely inseparable.  We were in the car driving to dinner after the film and my boyfriend looked over and said "Would you marry me?"  Shocked at first I quickly answered "Yes!"  He then unromantically said "Wait but that doesn't count."  I said "No take backs."  My amazing love had a weird idea that his actual proposal needed to be better than that.  However, I know that the spontaneity of it made it the most perfect proposal.

     I have single friends that are always lamenting at how they will never be married or find someone.  I keep nicely reminding them how quickly things can change.  Twelve years ago I saw my husband's face for the first time ever.  Three month after that we were engaged.  A year and half after that we were married.  Then one short year later we had a baby on our first wedding anniversary.  Life changes in the blink of an eye.  Sometimes I still can't believe that I have three beautiful girls, an amazing Husky dog, and a wonderful husband.  Especially when I think about that only twelve short years ago I was hanging with my girls at the bars.  My life could not be more different than it used to be but it is also filled with more joy than I could ever imagine.  Happy Anniversary Babe!  Only 90 years left on your contract.  

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